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By Kate B

Misery Loves Company? Pah! March is National Optimism Month; so let’s do a little “self belief” spring cleaning.

Research has repeatedly shown the power of positive self-talk, but Psychology 101 aside, there is a lot of sense in it, how can we expect others to love us if we don’t love ourselves? And this will help your dating self? When you’re single and want to be in a relationship, you may be focusing a lot on what you don’t have: that you don’t have someone to go splitsies on Chinese food with, that you don’t have someone to lift the couch so you can vacuum under it. But let’s not focus on the empty glass.

Instead, look at how full your life is. Look at what you do have: Your health, family members who love you, kind friends, a love for a certain type of music that makes you smile every time you hear it. If you look at all the ways you have it going on, at how full your life is, you’ll feel better about yourself and more confident and ready to offer that wonderful version of you to a relationship. Maybe to get you started our “positive” dating tips from late last year are worth another read… having a positive outlook WILL get you more dates.

What’s your best trick for staying optimistic? What made you realize that perhaps a change was in order? Share your thoughts on optimism in love on our community board.

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