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The science of kissing – pucker up!
By Anne B
Mathematicians know osculation as the contact of two curves at any given point. What few people know is that osculation also means the act of, or the very instance of exchanging a kiss.
Wait, really? This is information that should have been brought to my attention years ago in high school! Had I equated math with making out, I’m sure my interest in geometry would have gotten a sizable kick in the pants. Ok, enough about high school. That’s an era of life I will cherish fondly, but I don’t really need to relive it. Back to kissing! (more…)
2 comments November 3, 2009
You had me at “hello.”
“Baby, you’re like a student and I’m a math book. You solve all of my problems.” Unfortunately gentlemen, those cheesy and at times even nauseating pick up lines are usually associated with men rather than women, but I have never been a big a fan of gender roles so I’d like to help the ladies pick up some steam on approaching a man.
I’m about to disclose a vital piece of information that will come as no surprise, but should not be taken lightly: The beauty of men is they are pretty straightforward. Studies show that men like their pick up lines to be direct! So don’t waste your time with subtleties. No more beating around the bush. You might have to put a little more out there, but by being direct you can be sure that your message won’t be lost in translation. As we all know men are from Mars and women are from Venus, so for our purposes we are going to unravel the mystery of how to effectively approach those martians that we all love so much. Did I say martians? I meant men.
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Add comment October 23, 2009
Go Ahead; Make a Big Deal Out of Nothing!
All it takes is one glance through the relationship section of any magazine to realize that relationships can be tough sometimes. It isn’t really a news flash that relationship roadblocks are inevitable, is it? So let’s step away from the magazine rack and stop memorizing the six simple steps for training your lover to be your dream lover.
Flip it around! Why is so much energy spent on focusing on the flaws of relationships and so little spent emphasizing their worth? Take some time to revel in the little things that make a relationship so rewarding! Zoosk’s prerogative is to introduce you to that one-and-only who will take you from “single and searching” to “happily in love,” because we believe in the value that a relationship has to offer.
Relationship experts all agree that an attitude of appreciation for a loved one can only make your bond grow stronger. It may seem like a strange phenomenon, but the more you take time to celebrate the positive in your relationship, you’ll find there are more and more positive things to actually celebrate. There really isn’t much in a relationship that we can control, but we can control our choice to focus on those moments that may seem ordinary, and by appreciating them they transform into extraordinary moments. We know that when two people celebrate even the smallest pleasures, there is a deeper connection and a greater love. Who doesn’t want more love?
So we went to our community members for inspiration and asked them to make a big deal out of nothing, so to speak. We asked them to call out the little things they love about relationships and, in doing so, they truly brought the ordinary moments to life as extraordinary ones.
Warning: If you’re self conscious about your softer side, you might want to clear the room. I’m just saying, it’s possible that the following quotes will bring tears to your eyes.
Take a look at just a few of the little things our Zooskers believe should not be taken for granted:
- “I love when a guy brushes the hair out of your face, lightly strokes his hand down your face and tells you that he loves you.”
- “When we’re lying down in bed and I’m holding her in my arms, I love it when she grabs onto my hand and snuggles in tighter. You get to feel her body heat against my body. Smell the fragrance from her hair, and feel completely comfortable before you finally doze off. Not even the dreams you have once you fall asleep compare to that lil’ happiness you have right beforehand.”
- “Those moments of unexpected hugs or a quick twirl around the room as my favorite song is playing on the stereo”
- “Having someone to sit outside and share a cup of cocoa or a cold beer with after the chores are done and the kids are asleep..”
- “Eskimo kisses, when you rub your noses together. I love the ‘look.’ The look that means everything like, ‘God, I’m so happy your mine, and that I’m here with you now in this world at this very moment’”
- “I love it when he comes into a room full of people and me and he eyes me and walks quickly but nonchalantly to me and gives me a ‘hello, I have missed you so and am so glad to see you’ kiss. I love when he takes my hand and leads me safely through a crowed place.”
- “Going through my day not noticing any other girl, even if they are flirtatious. All that is on my mind is the one waiting for me to be back in her arms.”
- “The comfort of having someone there simply because they want to be there with and for you.”
- “The way that he wraps his arms around your waist when he goes in for a kiss and holds you tight. It just makes me want to stay there forever.”
- “The way my lips still tingle after a soft kiss, knowing that it’ll happen again soon.”
- “Sitting by a warm and cozy bonfire, watching the sunset while having my boyfriend’s hand in mine.”
- “When she comes up behind me and kisses my neck, runs her hands down my chest, and hugs me tight, being able to smell her in the process.”
- “Sometimes when I’m asleep before she gets home and she gets into bed, her waking me up. Instantly she is in my arms like she wanted to be there all day. As silly as it sounds, when I come up behind her and give her a light spank. Seeing her jump, squeal, laugh and then give me a look like, ‘I’m gonna get you for that.’”
- “When I get a special unscheduled lunch visit from the other half.”
- “I miss holding a woman while falling asleep. It makes me that much more relax knowing I have someone next to me and I have a need to protect someone.”
- “Acting silly with somebody that doesn’t judge you for it.”
- “Standing in the kitchen with my back to the room, doing dishes, cooking, or whatever and having him sneak up behind me, wrap his arms around my waist, pulling me against him and kissing the back of my neck.”
- “The softly whispered words, I love you, and knowing he really, really means it.”
- “I love waking up in the middle of the night next to him and asking him to hold me. Then when he pulls me into his arms I snuggle back down and go to sleep listening to his breathing. I love the touch.”
Sigh. That was better than watching Julia Roberts tell Hugh Grant that “she is just a girl standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her.” You know what movie I’m talking about.
Bottom line: Life is short. So love hard. By all means, please make a big deal out of nothing.
Add comment October 10, 2009
6 ideas for dating on a budget
By Juliet O
Why spend your hard earned money on expensive dinners, theater tickets, and humongous bar tabs, when there are so many fun dating ideas that can be done for absolutely free? Here are 6 fun, free ways you can spoil your Zoosk honey — without spending a single dime.
Make like a romantic comedy and head for the park
Public parks are lovely places to go kick up some romance, especially during the fall now that the leaves are changing color and the air smells so lovely and crisp. Take your date over to your favorite park on a crisp autumn afternoon, put a blanket under a tree, and get to know each other over a thermos of hot chocolate that you’ve brought from home. Bonus points if you have a dog! Park + dog + date = so cute it could be a scene from a romantic comedy.
Add comment October 9, 2009
Some simple rules you should know about text messaging and online dating
by Juliet O
While text messaging is generally seen as pretty unromantic, it can actually be a very useful dating tool. A self-identified text message addict, I believe that, when done right, text messages are actually useful in the beginning states of building a relationship. Think about it: texting allows you to have a constant stream of communication with an individual that you are seeing — not as an alternative, but rather an addition, to calling — an added-value to traditional phone conversation. Specifically, I love getting text messages from people just to say “good morning” or “good night”. A basic “How are you” or a “How is your day” text message is a nice, welcome interruption in the middle of a day. Sometimes, the simplest text messages can seem the most romantic. Something as seemingly mundane as an “I’m thinking about you” text message can be an incredibly sweet gesture, and when used correctly, a well-crafted text message can put butterflies in your sweetie’s stomach and stars in their eyes.
So what are some basic rules to follow by, when exchanging text messages with someone you meet on Zoosk? Here’s some textiquette guidelines, tailored from an online dating perspective.
2 comments October 1, 2009
Love Advice: How to overcome shyness
By Juliet O
Zooskers often write in our Community Forums asking for advice on love. The Zoosk Community is incredibly supportive of each other, and when a Zoosker seeks love advice on the forums, other Zooskers weigh in and offer their assistance. It’s a nice feeling, knowing that there is a community of people willing to help you work through your love and relationship problems.
As more and more questions arise on our forums, we’ve discovered certain similarities among the questions we’ve seen. Questions often fall into distinct camps. And questions tend to be finite. We get a lot of the same questions over and over again. That should be reassuring news! This means that — for each person out there who has love or relationship problems — there are other people in the world with the same problems. You are not alone! And we want to help too. You don’t have to take our advice, or even listen to what we have to say, but we want you — yes, you! — out there to know that we really do care.
We want to participate in the conversation. So, each week we’ll be taking a question from the Zoosk Community Forums and giving our take on the situation. Unofficial advice from official Zoosk. Here’s this week’s question, posed by Zoosker Jay. This is taken from our Broken Heart, Now What forum.
2 comments September 4, 2009
Smooth operator — on the phone
By Juliet O
“Hello Jane!”
“Hi?”
“This is John. From Zoosk! How are you, Jane?”
“Hi! I’m good.”
“So I’m calling you cuz I thought your boobs looked really great in your photos.”
“What?!”
“I mean, I’m calling because I thought we hit it off and–”
Click.
Err… real smooth, John. Now Jane thinks you’re a total creepazoid. Right after she hung up the phone, she went to see if your name was on the national sex offender registry. It goes without saying that this is the type of phone conversation an online dater should do his very very best to avoid. But you already knew that.
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3 comments August 27, 2009
How to write a date card that will get you dates
By Juliet O
There aren’t many situations in life where it’s acceptable to talk at length about yourself to random strangers without pause or interjection. Even less socially acceptable is to start disclosing, unprovoked, your life story, what you’re looking for in a life partner, your ideal date, your music taste, and your favorite movies — in rapid succession — to people you don’t know and have never met. We know people who do that in real life. They are called “crazy people”.
Unless, that is, you are writing your Zoosk online dating profile – in which case talking about yourself is not only appropriate, but encouraged. And totally sane, we promise.
We recently showed you how to create a date card that doesn’t suck. Now, we’re going to take things a step further and give you tips on how to write — or in more poetic terms, “trick out” — your date cards. (more…)
1 comment August 21, 2009
Make love to the camera, Zooskers
By Juliet O
A picture says a thousand words. Some of the most earnest questions — and some of the biggest complaints — that we get on the Community Forums are about Zoosk profile pictures. Let’s face the facts. Pictures are an integral aspect of online dating. It should be no surprise that your fellow Zooskers want to know what you look like before they decide to date you. People do respond to things visually, and we’ve found that Zooskers who’ve uploaded photos to their date cards are many times more likely to be approached by prospective matches on Zoosk.
Taking our findings to the next logical step we can conclude with a high degree of certainty that if y = mx + b, then date card + photos = good.
3 comments August 18, 2009
