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Weekend Lunar Love Horoscope for November 19-21
There are two distinct emotional speeds to this weekend. It starts out slowly with the love planet Venus catching her breath after turning direct on Thursday, November 18, and the Moon’s move into sensual Taurus on Friday, November 19. This earth sign enjoys the tactile delights that life has to offer, so delicious that food and drink, good music, lovely scents and the power of nature can arouse desire. However, it’s essential to pace ourselves because the Bull doesn’t like to be rushed. In fact, any pressure to act quickly is likely to be resisted with the Moon in this most stubborn of all the zodiac signs. Subtle seduction and gentle persuasion are much more reliable motivators than demands, ultimatums or aggression.
One of the gifts of the Taurus Moon is the ability to enjoy being in our bodies, which makes pleasing ourselves relatively easy. (more…)
Experience ZSMS today!
Have you experienced ZSMS? If you haven’t, you should! ZSMS is Zoosk‘s Scientific Matchmaking System, a technology that evaluates compatibility between Zoosk members and makes match recommendations based on information that Zooskers provide in their profiles. Lead engineer Brian Backhaus describes cool product features and explains how ZSMS works.
If you like what you see, fan Zoosk on Facebook! And don’t forget to follow Zoosk on Twitter too! (more…)
Weekend Lunar Love Horoscope for November 12-14
Logical Love
There’s a cool breeze this weekend that can make it hard to find the emotional heat we usually associate with romance. The mood-giving Moon is in chilly Aquarius where the needs for space, friendship and mental stimulation take precedence over the moist, messy intimacy that typifies our ideas about romantic love. Appealing to sentiment is not going to work now, so it’s wiser to enjoy the company of others without expectations beyond the companionship of the moment. If you feel crowded or start pressuring someone to do what you want, comfort can dissipate quickly and trust might be broken. An independent and innovative attitude makes it possible to enjoy someone as a lover without strings attached or a spontaneous pal who can show up unexpectedly and leave without warning. (more…)
Weekend Lunar Love Horoscope for November 5-7
The New Moon occurring in passionate Scorpio on Friday, November 5, sets the tone for an emotionally charged weekend. There’s little room for mixed feelings in this super-heated environment as attractions are either magnetically strong or just don’t spark at all. Slowing down to spend time on one activity or with just one person is a way to tap into the concentrated power of Scorpio’s desire and allure. Intelligent conversations are sexy with the Moon in this brainy Air sign, with seduction coming from bright ideas more than flattery or fancy moves.
If your attention wanders, the object of your affection may feel abandoned, so stay close to the one you’re with to maintain the connection. This subtle but powerful sign touches the deepest parts of people, leaving fast talkers and blithe spirits looking like lightweights and removing them from the romantic picture. Letting go of a past emotional wound can be an issue now, making it essential to recognize when you are holding onto a memory that keeps you from living in the present.
The sultry thickness in the air lifts on the morning of Sunday, November 7, when the fun-loving Sagittarius Moon turns hearts and minds toward fresh adventures. Yesterday’s interests can appear dull in the bright light of Sagittarian feelings that do not engage in nostalgia but serve as a beacon of hope about what the future can bring. Having fun without commitment matches the freedom loving spirit of this sign and is a wise way to sidestep the complications of retrograde Venus traveling through the mysterious depths of Scorpio.
by Jeff Jawer
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Weekend Lunar Love Horoscope for October 29-31
There could be real romantic magic this weekend, but it doesn’t come without some complications when loving Venus backs into a conjunction with the Sun in sexy Scorpio. This magnetic chemistry increases passion and desire, yet it’s tempting to fall back into old behaviors that might not be healthy.
There’s a thin line between desire and obsession, but sensing when emotions completely eliminate common sense is a good way to stay on the right side of this equation.
The Moon enters heartfelt Leo on Friday, October 29, which adds another layer of drama to the weekend. This outgoing and playful sign loves a show, and romance is one of its favorite kinds. The combination of this theatrical Leo Moon and the intense Sun-Venus conjunction is certain to produce fireworks. Moments of extreme pleasure can quickly turn dark for incomprehensible reasons; there’s a tendency to be blunt with the Moon in bold Leo, which doesn’t necessarily rub sweet Venus the right way. (more…)
Introducing Zoosk Affinity
Affinity is a new feature on Zoosk.com that makes online dating easier than ever – by importing your favorite music, movies, and books as listed from your Facebook profile onto your Zoosk profile in one click. John, Greg, and Peter from the Zoosk engineering team explain how Zoosk Affinity works and how it helps bring people together! (more…)
The Zoosk pulse: Love in the time of microeconomics
It’s common wisdom that we guard our money in times of economic stress – but does stinginess of the pocketbook affect generosity of the heart? We recently surveyed nearly two thousand singles on Zoosk to figure out whether the world’s continuing economic turmoil has affected their expectations of love. We conducted the survey this month, and compared it to a similar survey we conducted in May 2009 to see whether singles’ attitudes on dating and money had changed.
We were totally surprised (more…)
Online dating advice from Jod Kaftan: happily married man
By Jod Kaftan
Lately, I’ve started thinking of some alternative careers. One that came to mind, after speaking with my friend Amy, is that I could be an inter-species translator. Imagine what help that could be to the online dating community!
Amy was telling me about how she was dating this guy but “didn’t want to take things too seriously.”
“Did you tell him this?” I asked
“Yes! And the great thing is that he feels exactly the same way!”
Uh oh. I didn’t want to burst her bubble. But I had to think of her best interest. They actually don’t feel the same way at all. There are huge differences between what men and women mean when they say this, and in how men and women perceive dating and relationships.
Male commitment-phobes and how to deal with them
Let me begin by shamelessly exposing my own life. The morning after the first amorous date with my wife, she said, unprompted, that she wanted to take things slow. At the time I thought, “Cool, no pressure!” As a male commitment-phobe, it was magic to my ears. Then she started calling me every night. We started seeing each other every weekend. But in my brute male brain, I was thinking there’s some cognitive dissonance here. Why is she so actively involved if she doesn’t want to take things too seriously and go slow?
This contradiction would have bothered me in most cases if she had been someone who—bingo!—I also wanted to not take things too seriously with. But the truth was I did want to get serious. (Guys: I didn’t tell her this of course until she finally admitted she did as well.) The point is that I realized her saying she wanted to go slow was a kind of defense mechanism. It didn’t mean she didn’t want a relationship. It meant she wanted to make sure I wasn’t a jerk.
When a guy says he wants to take it slow, what he means is…
Now, when a boy says he “wants to go slow” or “not take things too seriously,” he, um, really means it. Actually what he’s really saying is, “I’m not ready for any emotional involvement at all.” He just wants company. And if you really like him, then you should avoid him. Tell him, “When you’re ready for something real, call me.” Because no amount of a woman’s greatness can make a guy in that state come around. He has to get there on his own—usually through some brutal trial and error.
Be straightforward, ask the right questions
I’m not saying make him sign a contract in blood. But a simple answer of “yes” to the question “Do you want something authentic?” will indicate that he’s not looking for a hoochie mama. Now if he says he wants something real but doesn’t call every night, don’t take that as a sign that he’s not interested. He’s probably trying to appear like he’s not groveling. The bottom line is that love is about taking chances, but by reading between the lines, you can at least minimize your hardship.
The point of the story is, don’t muddle a situation to the point where you need an inter-species translator. Take control of a situation early before things get successively more confusing. Despite a difference in communication, men and women can speak the same language, if they try.
About Jod Kaftan: A long recovering bachelor (some would say “lout”) who decided to make the leap and marry the girl he loved, Jod Kaftan is still figuring it all out–if only he’d follow his own advice. Jod is a contributing editor at the LA Times Magazine. He has contributed to Rolling Stone, Salon, The Los Angeles Times and the New York Times. Follow Jod on Twitter @Jodspeed!
How much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice!
There are better ways to break ice than with an overused pick-up line or a boring conversation starter. “Nice weather we have today, isn’t it?” doesn’t exactly speak volumes about your personality. Speaking of personality, a boring introduction like this reveals only a lack thereof.
We know it’s not easy to fabricate witticisms at the drop of a hat, so we’ve come up a way to help you out.
On your Date Card, you’ll notice a fun new Icebreakers feature. Icebreakers are cute little questions (like “What is your least favorite part about flying on a plane?”) that any Zoosker can add to their Date Card. These questions which can be answered by interested Zooskers in lieu of sending a Wink (which doesn’t provide much description or detail about you) or a Flirt (a Flirt what we call a standard Zooskbox message that you write unprompted). Icebreakers make flirting easier than ever, and we’ve given you 100 different icebreakers to choose from!
Adding icebreakers to your profile is easy. As you edit your Date Card, visit the new icebreakers tab. You can add as many icebreakers on your profile as your lovely heart desires.
Tammy and JD find love on Zoosk
Dear Zoosk,
The very first minute I signed up on Zoosk, a man winked at me. His name was JD, and he lived only 30 miles from me. I thought he was cute, so I sent him a message.
That was the beginning of a great relationship.
I live in the Clarksburg area in West Virginia, and he was from Buckhannon. When we met, his smile first attracted me to him. But later, it was his personality I liked. He would say the nicest things to me when we talked! When we texted each other on the phone, he always had a comeback to things I said that would blow me away. The guy with all the lines. Couldn’t stop telling me how beautiful I was!
Our first date was a nice dinner, casual dress, at a Chinese restaurant, and we had a good time with our fortunes in the end. They were funny, and we laughed a lot! Then we went for a long ride in the country, and JD showed me where he used to be a trooper, as well as some stories about the little town he worked in.
Then he brought me home and gave me a hug and a sweet little kiss and he went home. We have been dating ever since. Every day is a good day. I am sure it will continue.
We both had been praying for someone to come into our lives, and at the same time when we needed each other the most “here we are”. It’s really special. The way he hugs me makes me want to be held by him forever. I like that.
This winter, JD asked me to marry him! We looked at rings for a long time, and he took me to jewelry store after jewelry store, just to find the right one! We act like we are 16-years-old, laughing and having a great time. My children love him. We love each other. I can’t believe I found someone so quickly! Thanks for your dating site, or I would have never met him.
Zoosk is the best! You never know from the very beginning, but sometimes you can beat all odds.
Sincerely,
Tammy and JD
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