Not even for a bottle of rum would we return to those times! Love wasn’t always so easy before Zoosk.
Home is where the heart is, so who better to give advice on love? Hope you enjoy Love Lessons from a Home Improvement Guy! If you like what you see, check out the rest of Zoosk’s Love Lessons here. And make sure you fan us on Facebook and follow us on Twitter for more dating advice videos, blog posts, and fun updates! Continue reading
TV producers know how to present themselves, which is why we asked one to tell us how to make a good impression on a date. Check it out! Continue reading
Can people change for a relationship? Do relationship ultimatums work? Morrison and Jenn discuss this dating question – in 30 seconds or less!
Point/Counterpoint is a dating series developed by Zoosk in which a yes-or-no dating question is posed to 2 singles, each w/ 30 seconds to argue their side. Submit your answers to this and other relationship question’s on Zoosk’s Facebook Page! Continue reading
She met him online but their relationship couldn’t be more real! She met her perfect guy on Zoosk – find love online by dating on Zoosk too! Experience online dating, your way.
There’s a cool breeze this weekend that can make it hard to find the emotional heat we usually associate with romance. The mood-giving Moon is in chilly Aquarius where the needs for space, friendship and mental stimulation take precedence over the moist, messy intimacy that typifies our ideas about romantic love. Appealing to sentiment is not going to work now, so it’s wiser to enjoy the company of others without expectations beyond the companionship of the moment. If you feel crowded or start pressuring someone to do what you want, comfort can dissipate quickly and trust might be broken. An independent and innovative attitude makes it possible to enjoy someone as a lover without strings attached or a spontaneous pal who can show up unexpectedly and leave without warning. Continue reading
Zoosk was recently featured in the Wall Street Journal in an article about books and dating. This got us wondering: are books still a relevant way to meet a potential match in this day and age? At Zoosk, we totally agree. You may not compose sonnets to express your romantic feelings, or recite lengthy lyrical poems by memory to impress your date, but you can’t deny that literature is one of the best methods of capturing the feeling and intensity of love. So – what’s the importance of literature in the lives of over 1,500 singles surveyed by Zoosk? Find out in this ZooskTV news report on literature and love! Continue reading
Editing is your friend when it comes to online dating.
One of the most important aspects of online dating is composing the perfect letter. Your words are the key to someone’s heart. Last week, Matt received a letter from Julie. They have much in common, including a love of cats. He likes her a lot and wants to impress her with a response. But he has some initial trouble writing back. Luckily, he overcomes the obstacle through editing carefully! Watch as Matt edits his way from an awkward, semi-creepy message to one that is cute, smart, and sure to charm!
by Julie Spira, online dating expert
Congratulations! You’ve found a Zoosker that you’d like to get to know better. You’ve chatted online and now you believe that you’d like to take the chatting offline. How do you create the excitement online that will guarantee you a fabulous date in real life?
It’s time to take notes and follow the 5 F’s of Getting to a Fabulous First Date. First of all…
1. FIND someone that piques your curiosity. Search through Zoosk Date Cards to see what you have in common behind the smiling faces by viewing “Your Likes” and answering their Icebreakers. Watch your ZooskBox fill up with potential girls that you’d like to get to know better who will be eager to meet you. Then, ramp it up and…
2. FLIRT like crazy. You have to be in to win! Engage in quick fun, and flirty emails and wait for the responses to pour in. Contact women whose Date Cards make you smile and turn up the volume on the flirting techniques. There’s over 50 million single Zooskers, so there’s plenty of women waiting to hear from you. Make sure to keep it…
3. FUN – Make sure your Icebreakers are filled out on your date card to get started. Send emails about some of the most fun activities that you have experienced to let your personality shine. If you’ve jumped out of an airplane in a parachute let her know. Camped out in Yosemite? Add it to the list. Win an award for a spelling bee? It can be as simple as this. Don’t forget to find the…
4. FACTS – After 3 emails, it’s time to dig deeper and find out more about your potential date. Is she allergic to cats? Has she been out of work for a period of time? Still not over her ex? Drinking while driving? It’s time to find out what the possible deal breakers could be and dig in and do a little homework. If she passes the test, it’s time to put a date on the calendar. Finally, remember to…
5. FOLLOW-THROUGH – The old saying, “The squeaky wheel gets the deal” holds true for online and social dating. Respond quickly to the Zoosk Flirts when you’re notified that someone has taken the time to write to you. Waiting a few days may send her the wrong message that you aren’t interested. If she’s truly a catch, other Zooskers will realize that as well.
Remember to follow the 5 Fs in your first few emails. FIND someone interesting. FLIRT like crazy. Keep it FUN and light. Get the FACTS before you meet. FOLLOW THROUGH before your potential date goes from hot to ice-cold. With these F’s in mind, get out there and date, FEARLESSLY.
About the author: Julie Spira is a worldwide authority in online dating. Her expert dating advice has appeared in numerous media outlets including The New York Times, Los Angeles Times, ABC News, CBS News, FOX News, BBC Radio, Cosmo Radio, Cyberguy, E! Entertainment, Glamour.com, Men’s Health, and the Huffington Post. She was named one of the Top 10 Columnists to follow on Twitter. Check out her CyberDatingExpert site and her best-selling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
By guest blogger Jod Kaftan
George Miller, a famous psychology professor from Princeton University, determined the human mind can only remember about seven pieces of information. This can’t be right. When it comes to romance and dating, I can only remember three. It could be my ADD. It’s also likely that, as a long time bachelor now married, I have only gained three pieces of insight from some slowly wrought trial and error. Remember how they say men mature slowly? Yeah, they forgot to mention the learning curve never ends. So here’s my 2 cents:
- Faith: I had a long career as a single man (with varying degrees of success and failure—okay, failure). And when I think about why many of my relationships fizzled it’s because I lacked one thing: faith in the relationship—and more importantly, faith in myself (i.e. “why would someone want to love me?”). What does faith really mean? Part of it means accepting that life is unsettled, messy and unfinished. Embrace the surprises that life has to offer, and focus on just reinforcing the bond with your loved one. Don’t let fear of the unknown stunt your efforts. Know that real love can endure anything you throw at it. That’s faith. If you love them, believe in it, and be okay with not being able to control every aspect of your romantic destiny.
- Judgment: Faith is meaningless if you’re dating someone you know is bad for you; someone who has no interest in really working to be happy, or, especially, someone who’s just dating you for sex to fill a lonely void. To be in a successful relationship you have to really believe that you deserve it. If you do, you will attract someone who wants the same thing. Yes, it’s easier said then done. And it requires, in some cases, years of patience and fine-tuned discrimination. But never give your heart to someone you know doesn’t want to be in a relationship. You’ll only be hurting both of you. If they say “I’m only going to hurt you in the end” believe them–they will. And you’re no Dr. Phil, so don’t try to reform them.
- Forgiveness: My own relationship with my wife is kind of easy. I adore her. Does she annoy me sometimes? Hell, yeah! But I always let the love between us take charge. And that means not holding onto things that will only fester down the road. Love should always be the reference point. I ask myself: “Would I rather be right, or happy?” Being right is great if you’re a mathematician, but not if you’re a lover. This doesn’t mean I roll over every time. If I’m upset I deal with it. But again, let the love absorb the mistakes you both make—and never hold on to anger because it will only be toxic. If you accept people are fallible then you understand the most important thing in the world: yourself.
About Jod Kaftan: A long recovering bachelor (some would say “lout”) who decided to make the leap and marry the girl he loved, Jod Kaftan is still figuring it all out–if only he’d follow his own advice. Jod is a contributing editor at the LA Times Magazine. He has contributed to Rolling Stone, Salon, The Los Angeles Times and the New York Times. Follow Jod on Twitter at Jodspeed!