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Along with your profile text, your picture is, really, all you are on line. Your words are your voice and your picture gives you a face. Zoosk has policies about prohibited photos (https://www.zoosk.com/photo_guidelines.php) and we require that you have at least one photo on your profile before you interact with other members; a clear picture of just you, showing your full (or mostly) face. If you think about it, that makes sense: without a face your messages are just a voice with no body! You’re like a ghost: Spooooooky! So if you want to be not-so-creepy, you’ll want the best pictures you can get. Now, in all honesty, I am not a photographer, but from several years working online I can offer you some good advice about what is a bad photograph!
The most common problem is the blurry shot. Back in the day this was caused by poorly focused lenses and incorrect shutter speed, but no one uses such jargon when talking about digital photographs: what matters is called “resolution” or “pixels-per-inch” and when a picture gets blurry it’s called “pixelation”. Forget the lingo: what it means is that some pictures look quite nice very small but when enlarged they look horrid! Here is a sample:
Notice that the smaller version looks ok. When expanded to display size (as on your Zoosk datecard) the picture looses all clarity. This is a bad choice for any photo and our moderating team will probably delete it. The solution is to start with a larger photo:
If you have a larger photo to start with it won’t expand and so it will show in exactly the way you expect it to. A blurry pic doesn’t say anything bad. Other pictures manage to convey a message you mightn’t like however.
Don’t hide your face! This sends a message, loud and clear, to the other Zooskers looking at your profile: “I have something to hide. There’s a reason I’m too embarrassed to show off my face!” Got a girlfriend already? If you don’t want to look like some sort of creepy lurker, show your face!
One other problem affects other-wise perfectly good photos: the group shot.
Whose profile is this? Yes, you might be able to piece it together from other parts of the profile or by pairing it up with other pictures, but what if this is your only photo? We do ask that your primary photo, at least, be of you only: a clear shot of your face. Imagine going on your first date in a candle-lit restaurant, would your fellow Zoosker know you from your photo?
Of course you could edit this picture so it was only one face or the other, but then you’d have a too-small picture that would show up blurry on the site just like our first example. This is fated to be a second photo, but not a primary one.
A companion problem is pictures that are too dark. These are usually taken with your computer camera – often with a light coming from behind. This throws off what is called the “exposure” in the picture:
Natural lighting works best, but sometimes your computer may not want to travel outside! Cell phones are good if they take good photos and you can easily get the photo from your phone to the web. If you have an Android phone or an iPhone/iPad, our Zoosk Apps (available for all three) will let you take a photo and upload it directly to your Zoosk Datecard!
There are some photo problems that seem to affect some users more than others.
Guys seem to take this picture a lot, and we’ve noticed that woman just don’t like it. At all. Not one little bit. In fact, we get complaints about pictures like this and so it violates our moderation rules. We delete pictures like this whenever we see them. Why do guys take this picture over and over? This may be one of the great mysteries of the universe. This says several things to other users:
You have no friends.
You do have a very big ego.
Probably not much else, however.
You wouldn’t know how to get a woman’s attention if you tried.
Trust me: you have friends! One of them will help you take pictures! Just ask – and if you do, indeed, have the sort of body that you can show off, a picture of you relaxing by the pool on vacation is way better than inside your bathroom!
What works best for a primary photo is a nice, smiling picture; the classic head-shot. But what happens if you add a picture to your profile and instead of looking right it looks like the one below?
We’ve got you covered there! Next to each picture uploaded on your photo page, you’ll find a blue button that says “Edit”. Clicking there will help you make simple changes: you can rotate the picture and cut it to size.
There we go!
We do allow secondary photos on your profile, you can have a total of six different shots. It’s best to show your readers things you enjoy such as you skiing or you in the Community Choir, or you relaxing on the beach with a tropical beverage (preferably with lots of fruit and an umbrella).
All pictures are seen by our moderation team and in the review process they may get deleted. If a picture suddenly vanishes from your profile, it’s possible it was moderated and deleted. There are some things that we just don’t allow and you can find out about that on our photo policy page, https://www.zoosk.com/photo_guidelines.php. Those aside I hope this post helps you avoid not just “illegal” pics but also “bad” ones. Feel free to contact customer support by email (mailto:firstname.lastname@example.org) or by phone (888-939-6675) if you have any questions.
In celebration of National Humor Month, which is observed during the month of April, Zoosk.com, the romantic social network, surveyed nearly 700 Americans to ask them about the role of humor in relationships. The survey respondents included singles, people in a committed relationship, and married couples. Interestingly, the responses were nearly identical , regardless of relationship status. Here’s a fun infographic showing what we found!
What role does humor play in your relationship? Tell us in the comments section below!
You know the feeling. You see a message from someone whose profile you’ve checked out and a smile comes over your face. Eventually, when you reply, your well-crafted responses get another message in return.
You seem to be well on your way to building a connection and mustering the courage to ask your new Zoosk crush out for a coffee. And then….nothing. You get no response and days go by. You try not to think about it, but somewhere, in the back of your mind, you’re wondering what went wrong.
Was it something I said?
Did s/he check out my pictures again and saw something they didn’t like?
While sitting at a red light or waiting in the supermarket line, you remember that picture that initially got your interest in passing. But, some time goes by and you forget all about it. After all, there’re thousands of other potential dates around you.
But what if you want to give it another shot?
Ignore the fact that you haven’t heard from them in weeks. Have you never become so busy that you missed an email?
Message them again with a brand new topic. Lightly reference your previous conversation and ask them for that coffee now. It can go something like this:
“So hey, there’s an amazing indie band playing at the Main Street Cafe, I hear they kinda sound like that ____Band They Said They Like Here____.”
They may easily pass prefer meeting to playing catch-up with their messages. Remember, they did join a Romantic Social Network and it was to meet people like you!
Do you have other clever suggestions for breaking the ice again? Share them in our comments section!
Alex is a the PR Manager for Zoosk and, on his free time, he likes to DJ Electro House music and is learning to build furniture.
I’ve been signed up for four days when Leigh Ann sent me a message with her phone number. We texted until about 2am and decided to go out that weekend. I knew there was something different about her the moment I saw her – call it love at first sight. We spontaneously walked around downtown Fort Worth talking for hours, grabbed dinner, and went to a local live music show where I sat in with the band and sang Led Zeppelin’s “Rock and Roll”. We danced to Metallica’s “Nothing Else Matters,” and argued over who first performed “To Make You Feel My Love” (we were both wrong). I dropped her off at her apartment, we kissed good night, and she said “I’ll see you next weekend.” We became an item a week later. Tomorrow will be five months that we’ve been together, and we’ve decided on getting married after she graduates from college in three years.
Congratulations, John and Leigh Ann, sounds like you both found someone great to rock out with!
Even though we often feel the need to spend a lot of money on first dates, a bigger personality will leave more an impact than a bigger bill. If you’re low on cash, or simply do not want to let your date know about your finances– a creative inexpensive first date may be in order.
You can take advantage of museums that often have a day every month when you can go for free or gallery walks with free wine and cheese!. Check your local newspaper for free events. Your date will appreciate doing something different and cultural, instead of just seeing the latest movie.
When all else fails, look around your home, and kitchen, and use what you’ve already got. Try creating your own scavenger hunt that will take you and your date around to interesting areas. A spontaneous picnic on the grass, or a midnight game of truth-or-dare poker with your own rules will show that you are never bored, and thus never boring.
Any and all of these ideas cost little to no money, and yet will show off your creative and spontaneous side. If the chemistry is off, you will still have new surroundings or an interesting subject with which to engage. If you two hit it off, then there is no pressure to enjoy the expensive background, and leaves plenty of space for the date to become more intimate. Either way, ‘no money’ does not have to mean ‘no fun’.
Share YOUR creative, inexpensive date ideas with us in our comments section! Until the next date, this is Drew signing out.
“We met on Zoosk. We were talking for awhile and we had our first date on August 18, 2011. We both live in Las Vegas and find it hard to meet good people out here. He is the love of my life and we were made for each other. My whole family adores him and I know he will be the man I marry. “
Congratulations, Donovan and Lynessa, sounds like you’ve both hit the jackpot on Zoosk! We love your story.