As Zoosk’s RomanceFTW contestenters its final leg, it’s only right that this week’s Romantic Song reflects some coupleness. So, this week, we called on Jay Z and Beyonce for a love lesson in evading the law.
Maybe it’s because a lot of us at the Zoosk office grew up in the 90s, but this song sent Zoosk blog team strolling down memory lane like no other. Remember when ‘Friends’ and Bill Clinton were a novelty? If you do, then you’ll be loving this retro love song as much as we do!
What;s your favorite romantic 90s song?
July 6, International Kissing Day. What does that mean? How do we celebrate “Kissing Day”? Are we supposed to lock lips with someone special this day? Do we study kissing technique? Is the purpose to increase the quantity of smooches? Do we try new styles of kisses? Or is it just a play from Hershey’s to coerce us to buy their chocolate morsels?
Don’t we all already know how to kiss already? We’ve been kissing since we were toddlers. Do we really need a day focusing on it?
To be blunt, the answer is “yes.” We need to set aside one day for the kiss because it’s such an accepted intimate act that carries so much weight in a relationship. It seems that once they’ve been in a relationship for a while, most couples’ kissing styles begin to mesh and they find their smooching groove somewhere in the middle. But, for couples newly dating, without much kissing experience or even for some “old timers”, a little guidance might be in order to guarantee this intimate act is seen as sensual, rather than as a fiasco.
It all starts with cleanliness. You don’t want to go sticking your tongue into someone’s damp cave of halitosis. So, if you know there might be a make-out session in your near future, brush your teeth beforehand. If that’s not possible, carry a travel size bottle of Scope, some mints or a stick of gum to freshen and not offend.
I remember in high school kissing a girl once after she’d eaten what seemed like a wheel of cheese. She wanted to make this kiss an event. Not a good thing. And, while we’re on the subject, fellas, if kissing is in on the horizon, shave so you don’t leave her with stubble rash.
The big question: open or closed? The simple answer: closed…duh. Once you have made lip-lock, there’s really no reason to open your eyes. Keep them closed and enjoy the ride. If you open them and your partner catches you, you run the risk of coming off kind of creepy. But, then again, you just caught them with their eyes open, too. Could be a match made in heaven.
Where do you put your hands while you’re kissing? It really depends on your position. Are you standing at a door? Sitting on a sofa? Lying on a bed? If you’re standing, wrapping your arms around your partner and rubbing their back is a safe way to go (think slow, sensual strokes). Another safe bet for most any position is even placing the hands the face (a hand cupping the jaw or lightly touching the cheek). Hands in your pockets? No!
Once the tongue comes into play with a kiss, you start to open the door to passion. A tongue can really heighten a kiss, but it can also douse the fires of excitement if used improperly. Remember, inch for inch, the tongue is the strongest muscle in the human body. So, use that power for good, not evil. That means no shoving or forced entry. And, by all means, keep it in the mouth. No one needs you lapping their lips and chin like a Golden Retriever. Use your tongue to tease and seduce, and you’ll be fine.
Celebrate the kiss today, July 6th. Smooch good-bye on the cheek. Give a peck on the lips in the morning. Increase the passion a la the French. But, be sure that there’s meaning behind each lip-lock. Have fun.
Leon Scott Baxter is America’s Romance Guru and author of A Labor With Love and Out of the Doghouse and the new book, The Finance of Romance
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Kissing. It’s the ultimate expression of your affection for someone you like, love or lust after. And with the worldwide celebration of International Kissing Day on July 6th, Zoosk and The Kissing Expert are encouraging lovers and friends everywhere to take a little romantic journey for the day, and kiss with abandon – it’s the perfect 007 license for seizing the moment with someone you have a crush, crinkl
Now if making a soul connection with someone who gives you butterfly flutters is not enough, here are a few more reasons to indulge in this sweet ‘n sexy pleasure on this happy holiday:e or crunch on, or have long been in a deep relationship with.
- “A Kiss A Day Keeps the Doctor Away”: As one of The Kissing Expert’s mantras, kissing truly is a total body remedy. It keeps your heart healthy (it lowers blood pressure), your mind at ease (it drives the secretion of feel good chemicals like serotonin and oxcytocin), your skin rosy and lips plump (the dilating blood vessels give you that fresh “glow”), and improves the essence of youth (passionate “necking” tones the muscles in the jaw and neck line)…If that wasn’t compelling enough, a vigorous smooch session burns calories too (who knew?), which is infinitely more fun than a treadmill (and will keep you tip top frisky!)!
- Kissing makes your checking account go “ka-ching”: A German study showed that a man who was kissed by his wife before leaving for work was apt to make more money…The reason is simple – kissin
- Kissing is the tiny spark that can ignite the raging fuego: Nothing says “I want you” better than a soft, sensual brushing of lingering lips. And whether the relationship is in that fresh “I can’t get enough of you” phase, or totally “tried and true” (and maybe needs the occasional re-boot), getting “lip to lip” is the best sensual prelude for getting “skin to skin”.g breeds contentment, which in turn spurs confidence and self-esteem…This will not only motivate your lover professionally, but personally when it comes the happiness and well-being of your relationship. You can never kiss too much…
So on July 6th, The Kissing Expert is calling out to the amorous everywhere to commemorate this special day with Zoosk by turning to someone you know, or even don’t know, and kiss with exuberance. It could make our crazy world a better place!
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With International Kissing Day right around the corner, one can’t help but think more about kissing. In a big way, kissing is the true odometer of your romantic journey. Think about it. That first one is full of significance and promise – a kind of romantic fanfare to welcome the possible beginning of a new relationship. Early on in dating, kissing becomes a sort of celebration of your romance evolving into something special. As the honeymoon period of dating begins to plateau, kissing becomes a more-casual way to confirm your togetherness. By now, you’re probably only really going at it like high schoolers when a bit tipsy or as a launch pad for a more-intimate encounter.
About a year into your coupledom, you’re unlikely to be making out at red lights. Now, it’s a way to say ‘thanks’, ‘hello’ or ‘have a good day at work.’ It’s affection, not passion. And it’s sublime. Primates: orangutans and chimps kiss. Not each other – they don’t live in the same habitats – but certainly within their own species. It’s a biological instinct wired right into our most ancient brains. It’s the most intimate way to communicate a feeling that’s hard to express otherwise. So, this July 6th, take some extra time to do a bit of extra kissing. There’s just no way you’ll regret it!
Alex Shapiro is the PR manager for Zoosk who likes to DJ, write and think about kissing.
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And this isn’t exclusive to people. Lots of animals, otters for example, keep their mates for life and one can’t help but think that some sort of animal romance has something to do with that otterly whole-hearted sense of commitment. Speaking of adorable critters, in this week’s video, we explore some furry romance with the video for Burning by Adrian Lux feat. Dante.
How do you create a joint couple profile with your special someone? This short instructional video shows you how to start creating and sharing your romantic journey on Zoosk. Invite your significant other.
Presented by Zoosk, the Romantic Social Network. Written, directed, and voiced by Juliette Tang. Recorded and edited by Nelsen Brazill.
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