Today’s topic is kissing. Go to Zoosk’s Facebook page today to ask me, the Heart, how to do it right. When’s the right time? Ask me anything. I’ll pick my favorite and post a video response.
Today’s topic is wooing. Head over to Zoosk’s Facebook page to ask me, the Heart, what’s the best way to woo someone. What tactics you should deploy. Ask me anything. I’ll pick my favorite and post a video response.
Steve Mazzuchi is the managing editor at Mademan.com. Steve’s written about dating for Men’s Health, Men’s Journal, Maxim, ESPN The Magazine and Esquire. We gave Steve 5 questions about love and money and he answered them.
Ok, so the date is not going so well and we both know it. Then the bill comes. Do I still pay? Typically, as a guy, I’d pay but I’m not seeing any return on my investment.
Steve says: Yes, for multiple reasons. First, it’s the gentlemanly thing to do. Second, if you saw Zoosk’s latest survey, you know you don’t have to spend a lot on a first date. And third, it never hurts to make a positive impression. Girls talk, and you want this one saying only pleasant things to her friends because you never know, one of them could be your dream girl. Talk about a return on your investment!
Online group deal coupons are my latest addictions, but I hate to look like a cheapskate! Is it cool for me to use these deals on dates or is that setting me up for failure?
Steve says: In a word, nope! It’s tempting, yes, but no girl wants to feel like you got a “deal” on your date with her, and research shows the majority will be turned off. Now, if you’ve been together a while and have a higher comfort level together, that’s a different story, but as a general rule, no coupons on the first date. Capeesh?
When a date offers to go Dutch, I usually decline, but sometimes she insists and it can get kind of awkward. Should I really put my foot down and pay for 100% [OF?] the date?
Steve says: If you ever want to see this girl again, you should pay. It sends the message that you are serious and this is, in fact, an actual date (as opposed to a one-way ticket to the friend zone). If it starts to get awkward, say something like “you can get the drinks at our next stop.” This not only moves things along, it sets up the next phase of the date and lets her know you’re into her. And when she does actually pick up those drinks, you’ll know she is into you too.
I have been dating a guy for 2 months and he recently asked me out on a date that far exceeds my own budget. Do I need to be upfront that I can’t afford it, or should I assume he is going to pay since it was his idea?
Steve says: Ah, that’s a tricky one, but two months is enough time for you to feel comfortable being upfront. The key is timing. You want to wait for a moment when you are out together, having a good time and feeling close, to share your feelings about the situation. A standup guy will understand, and from there you can figure out the best course of action. Which is undoubtedly preferable to you getting stuck with a very uncomfortable bill.
My boyfriend whom I’ve been dating for six months makes a lot less money than I do. At first this was not a problem, but now it seems like I am paying for everything. We really like each other but am I being taken advantage of?
Steve says: You’re not being taken advantage of—intentionally, anyway. But you have to ask yourself a couple questions. 1) “Is he bringing something to the table that makes up for his lack of income?” And 2) “Is this how it’s always going to be, or is it temporary?” Case in point: one of my friend’s then-boyfriend made less than her when they met, but he was 1) a fun, charming guy who happened to be a fantastic cook and 2) in grad school studying computer science. So she could answer “yes” to both questions and, years later, they’re happily married. Of course, if you find yourself answering “no” to both questions, you’ll need to have some sort of talk—or be prepared to spend a lot of nights staying home watching TV.
Want some ideas for wallet-friendly summer dates? Check out Steve’s suggestions here!
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“We went out for dinner for our first date, got along really well and were even sharing food off each other’s plates!
We had lots in common, both having 2 young children and a love of football (AFL). We have since spent the majority of free time together and I can’t wait to see where this goes.”
Thank you Zoosk! I found my long lost love on this site. Her name is Tamara. My name is David. We plan to get married. Again thank you! –David and Tamara
Congrats to Alex and Joseph! They met on Zoosk, fell in love, and wrote us to share their Zoosk success story!
I met Joseph on Zoosk only a week after I joined. Joseph was a member for two weeks at that time. He had read my profile and decided to talk to me. He says it was not my photos that attracted him but my personal profile. I seemed ‘reasonable’. We chatted on Zoosk, then decided to meet in Brisbane at Twelfth Night Theatre. It was obvious that there was a lot of chemistry between us and we continued to date on a weekly basis until we decided to go steady. Thank you, Zoosk, for bringing two like-minded people together. We both feel blessed to have found each other so soon. It was an unexpected but a very welcome turn of events. We have now both suspended our accounts as we are no longer looking for that special someone. We have both found what we were looking for and more.
We’re thrilled they met on our site and wish them all the very best.
Conor and I met through Zoosk on Jan 4, 2013, I was under the name “ashleymarie331″ and his “Con A”. He sent me a “wink” and I was quick to respond. We talked on the site for roughly about a week before we found each other on Facebook. Through Facebook we talked more and more and got to know more about each other. Soon after we set a date to meet each other in Louisville, KY for our first official meeting/date at Wick’s Pizza. Since then we have been dating and have plans to further our relationship. I’ve never used a dating website in my life and I made fun of the people in my life who have put themselves out there because I thought it was ridiculous. I always preached that you can never know the people who contact you through those sites and you should be leery about the information you give people about yourself but I was proven wrong. Yeah I met some weird people that I had to quickly block from my profile but Conor really stuck out. I was only a part of Zoosk for only a couple days before he “winked” me and after we met face to face it was only a few days after that before I canceled my subscription, he canceled his before I did. You really can find true love on dating sites and I know we have. We have plans in the future to expand our relationship and start a family, of course one step at a time, but it was Zoosk that really helped us meet one another. I’ve never met someone I can absolutely share everything with and be myself around and I know he feels the same.
We’re so happy for the couple and wish them all the best!
“This is Herodotus and I would like to share my love story: I have found the love of my life, her name is Monica. We met on July 21st 2012 and we married on August 25th 2012. It was love at first sight, a magical click. Now our relationship has settle and we love each other more than ever. It did WORK!!!! I would like to thank ZOOSK for helped me to find my true love, my friend, my partner, my accomplice, my wife and the future mother of our children.”
We wish the happy couple all the best!