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Online Dating Girl Power – Ladies, Make the First Move on Zoosk!
Besides having all met their significant others on Zoosk, the couples you see above all have one other thing in common. In each of these success stories, the ladies made the first move on their man! Guest blogger Carrie Seim tells the ladies why it’s high time for them to go on the offense when it comes to the game of love.
The old “rules” said ladies had to wait around for their gentlemen callers. The new rules say – how boring is that?
Steal a page from Zoosker Annie’s playbook. The Jersey girl took a shining to Zoosker Paul’s profile. Instead of twiddling her thumbs, waiting for an engraved invitation to love, Annie “favorited” his profile. Paul winked back. And as of January 2, the two are officially an item!
Instead of playing hard to get and letting guys deal the cards, Annie bravely reshuffled the deck. Her Zoosk success story proves that women should stop waiting and start dating!
After all, making the first move looks good on you!
Go ahead, send him a wink
If a lucky guy catches your eye on Zoosk, don’t be afraid to favorite him, send him a wink or toss him a flirt. These low-risk moves can bring big success to your love life. Nothing winked, nothing gained, right?
You’d be surprised at how much men crave compliments, and how seldom they receive them. There’s nothing more flattering than a flirt from a sultry stranger. (That’s you.) So send him a friendly wink. Or give him kudos for the spectacles he’s sporting in his profile pic. Or answer one of his Date Card icebreakers with a compliment on his curiosity.
You don’t have to propose marriage – just give a hint that you’re into him. Then watch how fast he comes running! Nervous that men only want a chase? Not so fast…
Men dig ladies who make a move
“The one thing that always makes me feel like a rock star is when a girl approaches me first,” says 30-year-old Dan from Los Angeles. “It’s that simple.”
Men across the country have told me how attracted they are to women who go for what they want – especially when what they want is them.
Bring it
If there’s one thing guys aren’t short on, it’s overconfident delusion. This can be annoying at times (“I’m the best Rock Band player to walk the earth,”) but it’s a valuable commodity in the flirting field.
So try their tricks. Think about how fascinating, funny and fox you are before you approach a lucky guy. And remember how thrilled he’s going to be to hear from you.
Because really, what are you risking? If for some insane reason the dude doesn’t wink back, well, there are 50 million singles on Zoosk, so there are million more guys to choose from!
No more waiting around for Prince Charming, ladies. Time to find your own glass slipper!
Guest Blogger Bio
Carrie Seim is an alum of the Groundlings Comedy Theatre, where she performs, teaches and habitually abuses her position of authority. Her comedic essay “Outsourcing Love” was recently optioned for a feature film. Carrie regularly contributes humorous essays and videos to the New York Post and fierce dating exposés to the Tyra Banks Show and BettyConfidential.com. She had a recurring role on E!’s Seven Deadly Hollywood Sins. Carrie’s last name means “farm by the sea” in Norway. In America it means “kitten with a whip.”
4 comments March 5, 2010
Zoosk online dating success story: Jennifer and Jimmy are getting lucky in Kentucky!
Congratulations Jimmy and Jennifer from Louisville, Kentucky!
Jimmy and I met on Zoosk in August, 2009. We both have been widowed and were confident we would find love again. We started with emails, then talking on the phone and the week before our first date, Jimmy came over and fixed my lawnmower. He says he knew I was the one early on. Around Christmas, we started talking about making our situation “permanent”. We have 5 kids between us and they are ALL very excited about us getting married. Jimmy proposed on Valentines Day and now we are selling houses, planning a wedding and looking at houses to purchase. Thanks to Zoosk, our two broken hearts have become one whole one!!!
-Jennifer and Jimmy
*Wedding set for September 4, 2010*
“Happiness is an inside job,” Jennifer says. Zoosk makes happiness our job. We are thrilled we were able to help Jennifer and Jimmy find happiness! If you have your own success story to share, send it in to success [at] zoosk [dot] com! We want to feature your story!
2 comments March 3, 2010
How much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice!
There are better ways to break ice than with an overused pick-up line or a boring conversation starter. “Nice weather we have today, isn’t it?” doesn’t exactly speak volumes about your personality. Speaking of personality, a boring introduction like this reveals only a lack thereof.
We know it’s not easy to fabricate witticisms at the drop of a hat, so we’ve come up a way to help you out.
On your Date Card, you’ll notice a fun new Icebreakers feature. Icebreakers are cute little questions (like “What is your least favorite part about flying on a plane?”) that any Zoosker can add to their Date Card. These questions which can be answered by interested Zooskers in lieu of sending a Wink (which doesn’t provide much description or detail about you) or a Flirt (a Flirt what we call a standard Zooskbox message that you write unprompted). Icebreakers make flirting easier than ever, and we’ve given you 100 different icebreakers to choose from!
Adding icebreakers to your profile is easy. As you edit your Date Card, visit the new icebreakers tab. You can add as many icebreakers on your profile as your lovely heart desires.
2 comments January 25, 2010
Congrats to Bekki and Tom who found love on Zoosk!
Today we have a wonderful success story to share with you, from Bekki and Tom out in Michigan. They are absolutely adorable. Congrats to Bekki and Tom!
When I joined Zoosk, I was not sure what to expect. After having a few guys wink at me, and winking at some others, I came across Tom’s profile. I was quite impressed by it, and I winked at him.
We began emailing back and forth that same day!
We kept the emailing up for about a month, getting to know one another. A month after we started chatting on Zoosk, we went on our first date.
Before the end of the first date, we both knew that we had found the person we were meant to be with. Everything we both valued, and our goals lined up perfectly. We spent 4 hours just talking about life, and we felt that we had known one another forever.
Since then we have enjoyed every moment we spend together and are looking forward to spending the rest of our lives with one another. We feel as though we are in a modern day fairy tale — falling in love so quickly and being so incredibly happy. Thank you Zoosk!!!
Grins,
Bekki
What I love about this story is that Bekki was the one who made the first move. She was the one who messaged Tom first! Ladies, the guys on Zoosk love it when you make the first move. In our millennium, there’s no need to be demure as if we were in days of Queen Victoria.
Bekki and Tom were smart to get to know each other online, chatting on Zoosk for an entire month, before going on their first date. When online dating, it’s wise to really get a sense of someone before rushing to meet face-to-face. While the real test of a relationship is how well two people click in real life, it’s advisable not rush things too quickly so that when you do meet your mysterious internet friend in person, you feel safe and comfortable. Spending time to really learn about each other online also eases the awkwardness of a first meeting. Because you know more about each other, you have more things to talk about; you know the other person’s areas of interest, you have a history of communication, and you’ve already established some groundwork for interaction. If things get nerve-wracking, you can always talk about the topics you brought up online.
Congrats to Bekki and Tom for finding each other on Zoosk! We wish them all the best.
If you have your own Zoosk success story to share, send it to us with a photo of you and your loved one to success [at] zoosk [dot] com and if we showcase your story we’ll send you an online gift card as a token of our congratulations. Happy Zoosking!
For more success stories, check out:
Julia and Jaysen from Texas
LuLu and Allan from Vancouver
JD and Tammy from West Virginia
Rachel and David from Vancouver
Christy and Sean from Louisiana
2 comments January 22, 2010
A beautiful Zoosk success story: Julia and Jaysen’s Texas-sized love
Texans say that everything is bigger in their state. We don’t know if that’s true, but we’ll admit Texas is home to some pretty big hair, big belt buckles, and Big-with-a-capital-B love stories, like this love story between Julia and Jaysen, two Zooskers from the Lone Star State who met and fell in love on Zoosk.
Julia and Jaysen both took time to write letters to Zoosk that described their experience using our site to find one another. We were so moved by their incredibly romantic story. We used to think Giant was the most romantic love story to come out of Texas, but now that we’ve heard from Julia and Jaysen, we think they blow Elizabeth Taylor and Rock Hudson out of the water. You’ve got to read this.
First, we hear from Julia.
Dear Zoosk,
My name is Jules and I have found the love of my life on Zoosk. We had our first date 5 ½ months ago and have been together almost every day since. We had a immediate, unbelievable, and undeniable connection from the absolute moment we met. He is a wonderful man unlike any I have ever met in my life. I have found my soul mate and the love of my life. We are now planning the rest of our lives together and are the happiest that either of us have ever been in our lives.
I was 1 day old to signing up to Zoosk when Jaysen winked at me. I checked out his profile and sent him a message back with just a wink. Jaysen responded back with “Hey beautiful!” and from that moment on we started planning our first date.
We went out for the first time 3 days after we messaged each other. On our first date, we decided to meet in Grapevine half way between the 2 of us. At the time we started dating, I was living in Frisco, Texas and Jaysen was in Grand Prairie, Texas. We started texting each other back and forth a couple of hours before we were to meet. And there was a lot of flirting going on in our texts. It was fun and he was cracking me up with the jokes. When we spoke on the phone his voice gave me butterflies, and I knew immediately that something crazy was happening.
We met at a restaurant in downtown Grapevine to have a drink and dinner. We sat and talked and got to know each other for hours. Then as it was getting later, we took a walk down the street and sat on a park bench and talked for several more hours. We decided it was getting pretty late and we decided to head back to our cars to head home. While walking to our cars, we passed another seating area and ended up sitting again and talking for several more hours. We almost talked all night …. And before we knew it (which neither one of us EVER do) we were sharing our first kiss together and it was amazing!
Jaysen and I had a instant connection to each other from the very beginning, and I know that we were meant for each other. We were brought together now for a reason. He is a truly amazing man and I am so blessed to have him in my life, to love him and to have him love me.
I knew that I felt very strong emotions for this man a week after I knew him… We both talked about it and he told me he was feeling the same way, that he felt he had known and been with me already for his entire life and that he knew he was meant to be with me. And in 2 weeks after our dating we were both sure we were undeniably and utterly 100% head-over-heels in love with each other.
Now we know we are going to have a life together and are planning our futures together. Thank you Zoosk for helping me find the man that I was meant to be with for the rest of my life. Without your site we may have never met or found each other!
Sincerely,
Julia
Grand Prairie, Texas
We were thrilled to receive Julia’s big-hearted and inspiring letter, which quite frankly made us verklempt. We were all set to share her letter with our Zoosk community as inspiration that online dating really works and that love happens when you least expect it, when, out of the blue, Jaysen’s letter came the next day! It was like we’d had our birthday two days in a row. Here’s Jason’s letter to Zoosk (you might want to pause and grab the tissues): (more…)
3 comments January 19, 2010
Daters want emotional — rather than financial — security
The January 2010 issue of Self Magazine mentions Zoosk in an article about the increased demand for online dating.
Zoosk is determined to put the “recess” in “recession”. So go out and play!
7 comments January 7, 2010
Tammy and JD find love on Zoosk
Dear Zoosk,
The very first minute I signed up on Zoosk, a man winked at me. His name was JD, and he lived only 30 miles from me. I thought he was cute, so I sent him a message.
That was the beginning of a great relationship.
I live in the Clarksburg area in West Virginia, and he was from Buckhannon. When we met, his smile first attracted me to him. But later, it was his personality I liked. He would say the nicest things to me when we talked! When we texted each other on the phone, he always had a comeback to things I said that would blow me away. The guy with all the lines. Couldn’t stop telling me how beautiful I was!
Our first date was a nice dinner, casual dress, at a Chinese restaurant, and we had a good time with our fortunes in the end. They were funny, and we laughed a lot! Then we went for a long ride in the country, and JD showed me where he used to be a trooper, as well as some stories about the little town he worked in.
Then he brought me home and gave me a hug and a sweet little kiss and he went home. We have been dating ever since. Every day is a good day. I am sure it will continue.
We both had been praying for someone to come into our lives, and at the same time when we needed each other the most “here we are”. It’s really special. The way he hugs me makes me want to be held by him forever. I like that.
This winter, JD asked me to marry him! We looked at rings for a long time, and he took me to jewelry store after jewelry store, just to find the right one! We act like we are 16-years-old, laughing and having a great time. My children love him. We love each other. I can’t believe I found someone so quickly! Thanks for your dating site, or I would have never met him.
Zoosk is the best! You never know from the very beginning, but sometimes you can beat all odds.
Sincerely,
Tammy and JD
6 comments December 29, 2009
A new age of intimacy
By Anne B
Last night I sent a heartfelt text message. Not my typical behavior. I’m not a huge fan of conveying important messages via texts, but in the spirit of the rapidly approaching New Year, why not try new things? You know the kind of text message I’m talking about. The kind that you write, stare at for a minute, erase, and revise a few times before sending. This is the kind of text that you have to put a little thought into in order to avoid the very high risk that comes with messy text miscommunication.
So, there I am with the final draft of my text. I ask myself, did I say too much? No. Not enough? No, it’s good. The message is clear, and straight from my heart. Send. Wait. Fein interest in what’s playing on TV. Wait some more. Ping! I get a response. Hoping to see words of poetry echoing my sentiments, and perhaps leading to a longer exchange and then some (wink wink) I open the message to find… a smiley face. A smiley face!? What am I supposed to do with that!!?? (more…)
9 comments December 15, 2009
The Singles Guide to Surviving the Holidays
By Juliet O
Yippee! Bring out the bells, the whistles, and the fancy trays of mouth-watering, calorie-laden sweets: the end-of-year holiday season has finally arrived! As this year (and decade) draws to a close, Zoosk wishes you the happiest holiday festivities and brightest spirits and cheer that this season has to offer.
Holidays bring with them a host of holly jolly things, from parties to paid vacation to presents, but our absolute favorite aspect of the holiday season will always be the unique excitement of holiday dating. The holiday merriment rubs off on even the most incorrigible Scrooge. Who doesn’t love an eggnog, peppermint schnapps, and mistletoe-fueled adrenaline rush?
But we know that desite the amazing rewards, holiday dating is not without its challenges. We want to make the entire process of dating during this time of year as easy on you as possible. We want you to stop stressing out and focus instead on enjoying yourself. To help our Zooskers navigate and cultivate their love lives during this special time of year, we’ve created the Singles Guide to Surviving the Holidays, a downloadable PDF that you can save on your desktop and read at your own convenience, that answers some of your most pressing questions about the rules of holiday dating. (more…)
Add comment December 7, 2009
Love, versus the “idea of being in love”
By Juliet O
Have you ever heard the phrase “I’m in love with the idea of being in love”? This phrase relates to a real phenomenon. Many of us, your author included, have at one time or another been in love with the idea of love.
It is actually quite easy to be seduced by a concept. And love is a seductive concept. Our literary and artistic culture is riddled with hyperbolic, overwrought, and unattainable descriptions of what love means. The way love is described in famous novels is so exaggerated, it becomes almost absurd. In Goethe’s famous novel, Sorrows of Young Werther, the main protagonist actually takes his own life because the woman he loves doesn’t love him back. When the novel was published in 1774, it inspired a wave of “Werther fever” as young men throughout Europe began dressing in the style of the main character as described in the book. This “Werther fever” even lead to many copycat suicides as readers actually took their own lives, like Werther did, when confronted with unrequited love. This example shows how susceptible we are to ideas of love, even when these ideas in no way resembles the real thing. (more…)
4 comments November 13, 2009
Zoosk has received heart-warming letters from couples from all over the world have found love on Zoosk. We are proud to share 
