Among the ways the Internet has bettered our lives, we now have online dating and easy access to good information. Concerning online dating, Zoosk has the bases covered. Concerning information, well, if we don’t know who founded the Grand Duchy of Lithuania, someone else does. But we want online dating to be a complete experience and to ensure that Zooskers have access to dating info from a variety of perspectives. We see it as our responsibility to share some of those perspectives, especially if it’s relevant to dating and love.
Dr. Carol Queen is undoubtedly the person you want to call when you have a question related to sex. We know that sex is an important aspect of dating, so we went to her for advice. We called Dr. Queen up and presented three sex questions we thought might interest our Zooskers, inspired by content from our Community Forums! And she, being awesome, gave us some answers!
How do you reconcile a difference in sexual experience levels?
Does sexual experience matter in determining good sex? (Inspired by this topic).
Carol Queen: It depends partly on whether the more experienced partner treats the matter gracefully, and whether the less experienced partner feels defensive or, for that matter, judgmental. The fact is: experience with other partners is not the same as experience with each other. People are not interchangeable. Each relationship is unique. So even a virgin can teach her or his partner about how different kinds of touch or stimulation feel, things they hope to experience sexually, and all the other stuff that makes us individuals. The mature partner isn’t the one who’s had the most sex, but the one who realizes that the learning starts over every time you meet somebody new. The less experienced partner can make sure s/he has access to sex information in the form of classes, books, or good websites; that way, all new learning isn’t dependent on the more experienced partner. Educating oneself can help level the playing field. Continue reading