This week’s love song of the week is an early 90s throwback tune that still sounds sweet to this day: Mariah Carey’s “Dreamlover”. And, wow, Mariah sure can sing. Enjoy, and happy Friday!
Zoosk went to fashion designer Anousheh Pasha for advice on dressing to impress your romantic someone. Check out her professional tips on looking your best at all the festive events coming up during the holiday season! And watch the rest of Zoosk’s Love Lessons series on our YouTube page.
What a romantic success story we have for you today. Congrats to Zooskers Rodney and Selina! They met on Zoosk and are getting married – reuniting after 26 years! Selina wrote us to share her story:
Good morning to you. Yes it is true. My future husband and I are getting married in August of 2013. Rodney and I went to school together 26 years ago. We met again via Zoosk! Rather he found me. After talking a few times, we both realized that he was the same young man that was chasing after me in High School. He wanted to date back then but I was in a relationship with my now ex-husband.
Rodney was 2 years ahead of me in school and when he left school he started his life and I started mine. Now, 26 years later we are starting our life together. He keeps saying what are the odds of finding the woman that you wanted so bad from high school after so many years. I laugh at the question all the time, but I do wonder, what are the odds of finding one another after so many years and being in a real loving relationship with one another.
I would like to thank Zoosk for bringing me the best man that I could ever hope to spend the rest of my life with. We make each other so ridiculously happy that when we smile it makes our faces hurt. We are working on making this wedding almost as memorable as the proposal. Speaking of which, He wanted to propose in a way that neither of us would ever forget. While shopping at Lowe’s for some items to work around the house with, he got on his knees in the isle with the weed trimmers and surprised me with a little box and asked me to marry him. I was so stunned that I (Selina) was speechless, he laughed and told me to breathe. I closed my mouth, breathed and said said yes. I can’t wait to say I DO to the man that makes me spin in circles. Thank you again Zoosk.
-Selina & Rodney from Virgina
by Loris Zuchetti
When going on a date with someone for the first time, it is always a good idea to start light and casual. You want to get to know each other, have fun and be safe. Amidst all the possible public places, the first thing that often comes to mind is to meet for dinner at a restaurant. Safe? Check. Have fun and get to know each other? Not so much. Why?
First, dinner puts a lot of pressure on your conversational skills, since there is no major external source of entertainment. Why make it more difficult for yourself? Also, dinner is a clichéd date. You’ve both been on several dinner dates with other people. If you’re a man, right away you are conveying that you are “conventional,” and “just another guy.” It won’t kill you, but it definitely doesn’t help you.
Thirdly, at dinner you’re often sitting across a table from each other. That table is both a physical and an emotional barrier. I’m not suggesting you should physically escalate in public. I’m saying that proximity is key to set a romantic frame with the other person. Give Cupid some room to shoot his arrows.
Lastly, not all first dates are with Mr. or Mrs. Right. I’m sure you’ve been on an awkward first date before, haven’t you? You were probably thinking of a lame excuse to bail – “My cat is not feeling well” and the like. If you’re sitting at a dinner table, it is harder and pretty awkward to get up and leave than if you’re just having a drink at a bar.
But if dinner dates are so detrimental to your love life, where else should you go? Allow me to suggest some alternatives.
1. Go somewhere you can have a laugh. In my opinion, comedy shows are an excellent choice. Laughter is aphrodisiac, contagious and rejuvenating.
2. Try something cultural. I would also recommend live music shows, museums, galleries, and the beach whenever possible. These, rather than mere locations, are actual activities that you’re doing together and allow you both to quickly assess if there’s chemistry and potential for a relationship.
3. Go for a friendly drink. If you’re not the outdoorsy or the adventurous type, I’d suggest happy hour. Sit next to each other at a counter, where verbal communication is easy, the context is light and casual, and yes, the bill is generally cheaper than a full dinner.
You can’t go wrong with a well thought out date along the lines of the above. If you’re unsure about how you feel, save the high pressure dinner dates for later down the road, when you know your partner better and you both have something to celebrate.
About the author: Loris is the Country Manager for Zoosk Italy. He enjoys working out and going to live shows.
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by Jimi Alfaro
Often when in a long term relationship it’s easy to get a little lazy with your appearance. We like to dress up and look sexy during the honeymoon phase. We wear our designer or hip clothing that makes us feel confident to work. When we get home it’s easy to get into the habit of stripping down and putting on some much need comfy clothes. When both sides start getting into this routine the sexiness, the allure, the chivalry can slow down. The couple starts hanging out with each other rather then being together.
Depending on what you wear to class, the lame 9-5 or the air conditioned office it’s completely fair to want to get changed when you get home. Do get changed. Do get comfortable. But instead of getting into the comfortable cotton shorts, yoga pants or that perfect pair of worn in jeans that may or may not have a hole in it. Put on some nice weekend day clothing. Something you’d wear out to a nice bar for lunch or shopping in a nice shop. You can go as far as even organizing your closet accordingly. M-F day wear, M-F evening wear, going out/party wear, comfy wear. Though that might just be me being anal about closet organization.
The idea is to keep looking good for your partner. Keep yourself feeling confident and comfortable after a long day. While there will be plenty of nights that your yoga pants or cotton shorts will be a must have on. Try to keep this in mind. From time to time turn up your style at home. Dress up. Allure and arouse your partner. This well keep your eyes on each more then on the TV.
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About the author: Jimi is works at Zoosk as a Recruiter. He’s a Bay Area sports fan, talent scout and resume wrangler.
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by Mark Wu
Picture this: Your girlfriend wants to go out with her two best friends and their boyfriends – again. Girls love planning group outings involving their significant others, but going on dates with other couples can be pretty hit or miss.
Yes, group dinner dates are enjoyable every once in a while, but once you find yourself playing the “so what do you do?” game with another dude on your sixth dimly lit tapas night, it’s time to suggest some group activities that are fun for you – that the girls will approve of, too.
1. Mixology class: You’ll graduate as a group from drinking vodka cranberries when you sign up for a cocktail making course together. Learn basic bar techniques to craft your own cocktails – and then have a drink or two together to celebrate!
2. Video game night: If you’re just looking for a fun night at home, dig up your old gaming consoles and play some of the classics. Mario Kart on N64 is a guaranteed good time for everyone.
3. Brewery tour: Head to a local brewery to join beer enthusiasts, tourists, and thirsty folks for a behind-the-scenes look at how your favorite local beer is brewed.
4. Shooting range: While definitely not a date in the traditional sense, it’s a date idea you can definitely rally the other guys behind. And it’s always nice to have others around to admire (or commiserate over) your own marksmanship.
5. Wine and cheese party: Have each couple bring over a bottle of wine and a few of their favorite cheese pairings for an easy and delicious night in. Girls love hosting, and you don’t even have to leave the house – just drink and eat cheese.
6. BYOB painting: Channel your inner artist and create your own piece de resistance at your nearest BYOB painting venue. Most painting party spots provide instructors and all of the art supplies – all you need to bring is your own wine.
7. Bowling: Bowling is a classic group activity for a reason: It’s one of the few sports that’s enjoyable even if you’re terrible at it, and the beer and greasy finger food usually makes you forget about all but those strikes.
8. See an outdoor movie: For a group twist on the traditional dinner-and-a-movie, throw together your own picnic baskets and grab a few bottles of wine to take to an outdoor movie. It’s much easier than socializing along a row of seats in a dark movie theater – plus more romantic, too.
9. Go-karting: Put your driving skills to the test with wheel-to-wheel racing at a nearby go-karting center. It’s fun, competitive, and gets the blood pumping.
10. Comedy club: Nothing breaks the ice for an awkward group date like a good laugh. And even if your group isn’t that funny, at least the show will be hilarious.
*Bonus* Minigolfing: One of my best date ideas. Think about it – it’s a low skill game so either one of you can win. It keeps you moving and occupies you with something to do, but also slow enough so that you can talk and flirt with each other. It takes a pretty reasonable amount of time. You can make fun of each other’s bad shots and bond over the great ones. It works great as a 1 on 1 date as well as a group date. Try this bad boy out on your next date!
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About the author: Mark is a Marketing Manager at Zoosk. He enjoys playing basketball, going clubbing, and watching Jeremy Lin.
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Congrats to Leah and Austin on their upcoming wedding! Leah wrote to share her Zoosk success story:
My name is Leah, and I met my fiance Austin on Zoosk! Austin and I talked for about a week on Zoosk.com before we met on Dec 1st 2011. We knew right away that we were perfect together. We agreed on everything and to this day have never argued about anything. We got an apartment together in March of 2012 and we were engaged on July 28th. Our wedding is August 4th 2013 and we couldn’t be happier. Thank you Zoosk for letting me meet the love of my life. I couldn’t ask for anyone better then him. He’s sweet, kindhearted, honest, an all around good person, and completely just adorable to me in every way! He is my prince charming! –Leah